Friday, October 9, 2015

The Illegitimate Family

Family Going to Church on Sunday in Winter

There is such a thing as a legal or legitimate family. This is one where there is a husband and wife and their children.  This is a proper home and considered to be a "good home."   This is where the parents raise up "good girls" and "good boys."  It is a solid home where good values and morals are taught and loved.  It is the ideal where the Bible is paramount. The standards of godly living, prayer, church attendance, the reading of Scripture, family altar, charitable giving, and the service of others are the foundation that keep the home together.

This is a stable home.  It is a place a child will love and remember fondly when he is grown.  

Many years ago, if a child was born outside of wedlock, the clerk would stamp "illegitimate" (or a much harsher term) on the birth certificate. 

An illegitimate baby had a stigma attached to the child for its entire life.  It meant that this child was not "issued" from a married mother and father.  It did not come out of a pure and holy union (a legal union).  When this child grew up and wanted to marry, the records would come up letting all know that this person was from an "illegitimate" union, which was very sad and certainly unfair to the innocent child!

A fear of having this stamped on a legal document made many women marry quickly.  Marriage before the birth protected both the good name of the mother and the good name of the child.  Marriage helped establish a legal family and start a proper home.

In 1936, the first law was passed, in the state of Texas, to remove the word "illegitimate" from birth certificates.  There was opposition to this law, arguing that it would destroy the "sanctity of the home."  While it is true that our society has changed drastically since this time period, there is also some truth to the fact that a "legal" home, or one of Biblical values and morals, is more rare than not.

Today, Mothers and Fathers are not in any hurry to marry. It is okay, in the eyes of our culture, to live together without first having a wedding. It is even common to move around from house to house and from person to person, without the stability of having the same mother and father through one's childhood.
This ought not to be!

There should be a call from the older and wiser to teach the next generation that a legitimate family is a beautiful and necessary thing.  Biblical standards are not outdated.  There is an incredible blessing when one follows the path to a sanctified home and strives for a holy and pure family life starting with a wedding.

 In these days, homes across the land can be restored and "legitimate" by taking those simple steps of getting married and committing to the family unit regardless of the popularity of marriage, or the financial difficulties!

Certainly, this may not be possible in all situations, but it should be the goal for every home to one day be "legitimate."  What a wonderful ambition is this, to restore godliness and happy homes to Biblical standards, bringing back the sanctity of the home!

Mrs. White

To help with a happy home: 

From the Archives -

Motherhood - "How a Godly Mother May Guide an Imperfect Family"

Some Help - "Getting Along in Marriage"

Financial Struggles - "When We Can't Endure a Little Hardship"

The Joy of Having Children in the Home - "A House Full of Babies"

Mrs. White's special book for Homemakers - "Mother's Book of Home Economics."

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Sunday, September 27, 2015

Thrifty Elegance

"Dickens Series" plate in Mrs. White's home

Over the summer, Mister and I came across a beautiful plate.  It was made in England.  At the time, I had been reading through "Dombey and Son" by Charles Dickens, and was drawn to the lovely blue and white artwork depicting an 1800's British scene.  The plate didn't cost very much, at just a few dollars. Mister encouraged me to buy it. I was delighted. It now sits in a decorative holder in our chambers.

Throughout the years, we have been given pretty things to decorate.  Our home has been furnished and designed in an old fashioned way:  Here a little and there a little.  At times I will wait years before I find just the right item which might go on one of the walls, or perhaps we wait to find the right curtain for a single window in one of the little rooms. (As an example - our bedroom curtains cost only $4 each and are unique in a sheer tan color, bordered with lace.) These are fun and exciting ways to create a charming place to live.  It also encourages great patience and gratefulness when we wait to find our treasures.

There is a style, or way of life, called thrifty elegance.  It costs very little, sometimes a few dollars. At other times it costs nothing (in the form of hand-me-downs from relatives and friends).  We accept just what we need so that our home is not overly crowed with "things."  It is a simple, yet pretty way of life to add touches of charm.

This sort of elegance can also come from our manners and our dignity.  When we live on a small, fixed income, we can do it with grace and confidence, knowing we use our hard work and abilities to keep a neat and tidy home.  We can serve our meals in a classy way.  How many of us set a formal dinner table with napkins, real dishes, and serving bowls?  This is part of elegance, even if we serve humble food.  In this modern day, home cooking is so rare that it is a treat!  It is also very frugal.

There is something very beautiful about being a creative homemaker.  It takes much time, thought, and effort.  We create a restful, pleasant place for our family and our guests when we take the time to create a touch of elegance in a charming home.

Mrs. White

From the Archives -

To Make it Easy - The Foundation of Cleaning.

To Motivate the Children - War Slogans for a Clean House.

Marriage - When Groceries are the Presents.

Mrs. White's special book for Homemakers - "Mother's Book of Home Economics."

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Sunday, September 13, 2015

All These Accomplishments

Pretty pink flowers in our Parlour

We have all heard of supermoms who have perfect homes and perfect families.  They are "accomplished," which means they have many skills. In the old days, this would include the ability to play the piano, paint, and sing.  Today, it is more common for an "accomplished" person to be crafty, a designer, a gourmet cook and other such modern skills.

Yet, there is something very basic and simple about just accomplishing beautiful things at home. These simple things include doing the laundry, keeping the kitchen clean, making pleasant meals, and being hospitable.

I prefer the simple accomplishments. 

These days, it is an amazing feat just to do the basics of homemaking.  It is also very difficult when one has a large family, or when one is feeling ill.  Sometimes, I do a little baking in the morning, and then I dust and vacuum.  I might get some of the laundry started before making lunch.  When my grandbabies are here, I am very busy reading to them, playing with them, and making their snacks and meals. I am delighted with these types of accomplishments!

Still, I have to take many breaks.  Accomplishing things is tiring.  The breaks are necessary.  We need to pace ourselves. Even still, there is a special secret to doing great things in the home.

 I once read about this little girl who said that when she was holding her grandfather's hand, she could run much faster than she could alone.  She was able to do so much more when her grandfather was with her.   There was an analogy that this also applies to our Heavenly father.  We can only do so much alone.  But when we walk close to the Lord, leaning on Him, working with (and for) Him, we can accomplish great and mighty things.

Mrs. White

From the Archives -

When I could Not See enough to Keep House - I Cannot Do it All.

Remembering my Childhood - Mother's Dinner Bell.

Is Your House Clean Enough? - Beware of Random Kitchen Inspections.

Mrs. White's special book for Homemakers - "Mother's Book of Home Economics."

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Monday, September 7, 2015

The Shabby Garden

Mrs. White's front porch with wildflowers - part of our "Shabby Garden."

In England, the grounds of a property are called a "garden."  Here in the United States, we refer to it as a "yard."    However, when there is an acreage of some substance (from an acre upwards) it is charming to refer to one's property as an Estate, and to the grounds as one's garden.  This is what I like to call our home for my own amusement.

We have always taken great care in the upkeep of our land.  Mister and Great-grandfather (who lived with us for nine years here at the Estate) took excellent care by mowing, care taking, and landscaping.  There were small portions allotted to flowers, simple vegetable gardens, and our strawberry patch.

Since early this spring, things have drastically changed here.

This is the first summer without our beloved Great-grandfather (My father, who passed into heaven early this year).  I see the neglect on the grounds and desperately miss him.  I often think such things as, "Grandfather would never have allowed this screen door to be in such disrepair."  I also see his carefully built woodshed, which stored his winter fuel, and notice the land has just about overtaken its beauty with weeds and overgrowth.

My beautiful outdoor "pulley" system, which once held our wet laundry, has fallen and is in desperate need of a few minor repairs.  Paint is peeling all over the house.  So many things are in great need of care on both our house and our gardens.

Our grass has grown out of control all across our acreage.  Our sons do their best in their attempts at regular mowing but cannot possibly compare with the loving care of Great - grandfather's efforts.

I have only recently stopped crying when I see all the beautiful things Great - grandfather made on the property. They are precious reminders of him.  Instead, I say a prayer of thanks for him, and his presence, with peace and joy.  

In early spring, Mister took on the task of all the yard work and care taking, mostly alone.  He planted wildflowers for me, in remote and obvious locations throughout the property.  He did not have time to plant our vegetable gardens, this past May, because a devastating injury made him home bound and unable to work.  Thus, the state of things at our Estate.

This morning, I walked the property and noticed there is a Shabbiness to it that I have grown to love.  The wildflowers Mister planted for me are bright and blooming in delicate elegance.  They bring joy out of what would be sadness.  I smile when I see them.   There is beauty in some sort of simpleness when we are content and at peace with things we cannot change.

Mrs. White

From the Archives -

Wouldn't You like One of These?  - Home as a Little Christian School.

Enjoying the Baby - Afternoon Walk in the Parlour.

Remembering Great - Grandfather - Holiness from the Garage.

Mrs. White's special book for Homemakers - "Mother's Book of Home Economics."

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Wednesday, September 2, 2015

Apron Delivery - From Joyful Aprons

"Soft Yellow and Green Sophie Apron" from Joyful Aprons

I spent most of the morning cleaning, cooking, taking care of babies, and handling all kinds of phone calls for appointments and home repairs.   One of the children came in announcing that a package had arrived for me.  I was trying to finish up the housework and had to get ready for my husband's doctor's appointment.  I looked at the package and just smiled. It was so pretty.  It looked like a gift, or a present, and gave me joy!

Joyful Aprons package with a lovely pink apron on shipping label.

I could not open it at that moment, so I put it in a safe place until we returned from our outing.  I looked forward to it all afternoon.

The moment finally arrived.

Inside a Joyful Aprons package.

The apron was beautifully wrapped in white tissue paper and sealed with a custom designed Joyful Aprons sticker.  It was lovely!

Best of all, the apron itself is beautiful!

A Joyful Apron

I love the delicate flower design and the ruffled edges.  The material is excellent quality and the craftsmanship is impressive!

A Beautiful Joyful Apron

The apron is even more beautiful than pictured on the site.  There are adjustable straps at the top, which offers a unique design, allowing a crisscross in back.  There are two generous size pockets in front, which have charming little bows on them.  The attention to detail is amazing. 

Looking at this apron and marveling on the way it was packaged reminded me of a gift of flowers.  When someone arrives with a basket of flowers, one lights up with joy and gratefulness.  This is what it was like for me when my Joyful Apron was delivered - it was better than receiving flowers!

The next time you want to send a gift to a sister, mother, grandmother, or dear friend, consider sending them a joyful apron. They will love it!

Here is the link if you would like to order - Joyful Aprons.

* Receive a $5 discount by using this code:   save5

Mrs. White

* Disclosure - I received this item for review purposes.  It was a blessing to receive and I hope my readers are able to purchase one for themselves. *

Mrs. White's special book for Homemakers - "Mother's Book of Home Economics."

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